So, we’ve all heard that parenting in the teenage years is a hard task. Yet, there is hard, and then there is impossible. If you feel you’ve reached the impossible stage and are unable to cope with parenting your teen it is time to step back and really evaluate the situation.
Admit You Need Support
Sometimes we liked to think that we can deal with things on our own. Sometimes we fear admitting we need help means admitting defeat or that we’ve lost the battle. Other times there is a worry that others will criticise us if we admit to needing help. At lot of times we get acclimated to the situation and don’t realize how much help we really need. It may take a lot of courage but admitting you need support is the first step to becoming a better parent. Everyone needs support and help to deal with the challenges that came with parenting teens that have behavioral problems. So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed or unable to manage your own emotions, it is okay to reach out and ask for help.
Find The Support That You Need
Our courses guide parents through this process of identifying problems, and then reaching out for the support structures needed to get everyone through the challenges of parenting a troubled teen. The fact is that part of this process is realizing that your teen is not the only person that needs to change. You’ll need to consult experts and acquire new skills and coping strategies in order to help your teen succeed. Deliberately add things to your routine that help you to keep your calm. These things look different for each person but typical suggestions include:
- Meditation/prayer
- Exercise
- nutritious eating
- Healthy sleep habits
- Practicing mindfulness
- Getting counseling
- Journaling
- Listening to music
Stay In The Game
Honestly, you’re going to have a lot of messy days, but keep trying. The more you practice helpful strategies to manage your teen the better you will get at it. The more you do the things that need to be done the better you will get at it. If you keep trying you will get stronger. The things that we persist in get easier over time. A painting is created one brushstroke at a time, a tapestry is woven out of single threads. Imagine each effort as a single stroke of your paint brush, imagine each day as a thread of your tapestry. If you keep going you’ll create a beautiful piece of artwork. On those days you can’t paint or weave ask for help, try a new tactic, or consult another professional, or share your struggles with a friend. Here at The Parenting Center we’re here to give you the support and help you need to keep going.
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