What To Do When Your Teen Son Is Out Of Control

It’s not easy to admit when your teenage son is out of control. Most of the time it’s even harder to figure out what to do.

Communicating with teenagers is no easy task. As parents, we’ve all had days and weeks when absolutely everything seemed like a struggle with them, where it’s impossible to see eye to eye. When your son acts up, and the situation escalates to the point of no return it is tempting to step up and fight back. But that’s not always the way.

Communication is Key

In any good relationship, solid communication and clear understanding of the other person is key. Things should be no different with your son – even when he’s out of control.

We know it’s never easy to keep a clear mind during an argument, but please keep in mind the following:

1. Your teen doesn’t want to be in conflict either (believe it or not). Stay calm, and get to the root of the situation. Sometimes you both need to take a step back.
2. Eliminate cursing and name calling. This only encourages similar behavior and belittlement.
3. Take a deep breath and recognize the real issues at hand. This could take a few minutes so discuss a later time (in 15-30 min) when you can continue the conversation.

Seek Help

Clear and compassionate communication is key when you’re at your wits end with your out-of-control teenage son. No one reacts well to anger, especially teenagers. Should these steps not help, consider the following:

1. Stop the problem before it starts by teaching boys about hard work, responsibility and showing respect for others, as well as themselves.
2. Don’t fight back. You’re not here to show your child “who’s boss.” However, you should absolutely let your son know your rules, your standards, and what you expect from them.
3. Ask for help. You don’t have to do this alone. Utilize the trained professionals we have on staff that have knowledge and experience based wisdom to help you solve this situation.

It Takes a Village

As professionals, we know it takes a village to raise a child. And when they hit teenager status, it reaches a whole new level. It’s not an easy job.

It’s not uncommon for parents and teens to clash during these years. However, the arguments and shouting matches don’t typically get better on their own. The best thing you can do is build up your parenting skill set to tackle tough situations with your teen.

If you’re struggling and need support please let us know – we have the tools you’re looking for.